During a recent service at Oakwood University, a historically Black Seventh-day Adventist (SDA) institution in Huntsville, Alabama, Pastor Robert Edwards delivered a message that captured attention for its unique use of the phrase “No Diddy.” This phrase, originally borrowed from current cultural slang, was employed by the pastor to convey a powerful message to the students about maintaining physical purity until marriage. While preaching at an Oakwood Live service, Pastor Edwards used the phrase to encourage the young adults to make wise, intentional decisions about their romantic relationships, specifically advocating for celibacy until marriage.
Oakwood University, a private institution with deep roots in the Black community, often hosts these live services to inspire and guide its students. As part of a 90-minute service, Pastor Edwards’ message took center stage towards the conclusion of the event, approximately at the 1 hour and 22-minute mark. His words resonated with the audience and were later shared widely across social media, including by outlets like The Art of Dialogue.
The phrase “No Diddy,” which Pastor Edwards adopted, is a modern reworking of phrases like “No Homo” or “Pause,” which were once common in popular culture. These phrases have often been used to clarify or distance oneself from certain behaviors, often with a tone of humor or light-heartedness. However, Pastor Edwards used “No Diddy” in a more serious context, referencing the recent legal issues surrounding Sean “Diddy” Combs, the famous music mogul who was charged with racketeering, sex trafficking, and other serious crimes. The charges, which included accusations of rape and violent behavior, cast a dark shadow over Combs’ reputation and career.
Pastor Edwards tapped into this cultural moment to draw a parallel between Diddy’s legal troubles and the decisions young people face in their romantic lives. He encouraged the students to make responsible choices, even if it means saying “No Diddy” to their peers at Oakwood. “I know you’re trying to make a decision,” Pastor Edwards explained from the pulpit, “Even while you are here, you may have to say ‘No Diddy’ to an Oakwood student.” Edwards serves as the Vice President for Enrollment Services and Retention at the university, giving him a direct connection to the student body and their spiritual development.
Edwards further personalized his message by sharing his own experience. At 19 years old, he made a commitment to remain celibate until marriage, a vow he took seriously despite the challenges that came with it. “The first time I had sex was the night I got married,” he recounted, reflecting on the difficulties of staying true to his promise. He acknowledged that this was no easy feat, sharing stories of the temptations and pressures he faced, especially from women in the church who were eager to marry by a certain age. However, he stood firm in his convictions, stating, “I had to say ‘No Diddy.’”
Edwards continued by describing his relationship with his future wife, recounting how he didn’t kiss her until they stood at the altar. His decision to refrain from physical contact, even kissing, was a testament to his commitment to purity. He proudly declared, “Without pre-kissing, I’ve been married 40 years,” receiving a round of applause from the congregation as the organ played in the background. His enthusiastic repetition of “I say no diddy, no Diddy” echoed through the room, solidifying his message and leaving a lasting impression on those in attendance.
Oakwood University, founded in 1896 by the SDA church, has a long history of educating African Americans, particularly in the South. Today, it continues to draw students from around the country, with events like Oakwood Live contributing to its strong sense of community. In 2023, the event attracted a record number of registrants, including 700 high school students. The university’s legacy is not only academic but also musical, with renowned alumni such as Little Richard, 10-time Grammy Award winners Take 6, and the globally recognized Aeolians choir. Other notable attendees include Davido, Mick Jenkins, Brian McKnight, and Clifton Davis.
Pastor Edwards’ message, while drawing on modern culture, emphasized timeless principles of faith, self-discipline, and personal conviction. By using “No Diddy” as a relatable catchphrase, he was able to connect with the students on a deeper level, offering them both spiritual guidance and practical advice for their relationships. In a world filled with temptation and conflicting messages, his words served as a reminder that staying true to one’s values can lead to long-term rewards and a fulfilling life.
